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20-12-2016 11:00 PM
20-12-2016 11:00 PM
BPD or something else?
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21-12-2016 09:33 AM
21-12-2016 09:33 AM
Re: BPD or something else?
Hi @Mon_102,
I can understand that you are questioning your mums diagnosis and to be able to determine what mental illness she has she will have to have some sessions with a psychologist, as we are not able to diagnose her on here.
I think focusing on keeping yourself and your daughter safe is top priority right now if she is being quite aggressive towards the both of you. Have you tried maintaining boundaries with her and not putting up with that type of abuse like walking away or doing something to calm her down at all?
She doesn't sound very well and needs some support for this and there is only so much you can do to support her without burning yourself out. This is something that you can't really control but what you can manage is yourself and your daughter and self-care for you both.
You really need to instead take care of yourself to be able to cope with her and these outbursts. It must be hard seeing her this way and being yelled at in public, are you seeing a counsellor or psychlogist to talk about this at all?
Lunar
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21-12-2016 02:38 PM
21-12-2016 02:38 PM
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22-12-2016 03:19 PM
22-12-2016 03:19 PM
Re: BPD or something else?
Hi @Mon_102
I agree with the mod @Lunar
You and your daughter are top priority.
I had parents with mental illness and suffered SI a great deal when my kids were little ... but I would never have done anything like threatening self and family with kids in the car .. thats going too far .. in my very crazy book.
Boundaries boundaries.
Diagnosis doesnt matter .. mine "apparently" had schizophrenia.
Diagnosis is not an excuse to be an out of control bitch .. it gives other people and other women ..
struggling and being responsible with mental illness .. a bad name.
I tried to heal my mother .. kept her in my life .. even though I limited it towards the end ... she turned on me .. for all the love and patient encouragement and support that I gave her .. but she still didnt go as far as your mum ...
YEP she needs help .. but it ts NOT your job ..its a Stockholm Syndrome form of confusing identities and boundaries.
No easy answers sorry .. but take care of your daughter