12-08-2019 06:25 PM
I’m new and need advice who I should speak to in regards to, stress, debt and how to get drive to sort out issues instead of hiding from it all. I have a family who I love and need to get the drive and sort out my issues.
I drink alcohol To mask the pain
I ignore issues and hide hoping theyll
I wake up thinking of issues I have
I regret who I am now, I used to be so strong and ambitious
I need help how to get all financial, mental, business and family issues in a better place
I’m a prideful stubborn person struggling to talk to anyone about this.
12-08-2019 08:02 PM
12-08-2019 08:03 PM
13-08-2019 07:15 PM
It could be really beneficial for you to see a psychologist for your stress. A good psychologist can teach you techniques for reducing your stress levels. And they will also know of services near you who will be able to help you with financial counseling etc.
See if any friends or your gp can recommend a good psychologist or look them up on the internet.
Well done for reaching out here.
13-08-2019 09:06 PM
Hey @John1979 👋. It is a really big step to start working all this out. Kudos to you for writing here and knowing things could be better. You could try giving the sane helpcentre ph 1800 18 7263 or there is a chat line too where you won’t need to speak from 10am until 10pm weekdays, the link is at the top of this page. They were a great first step for me trying to work my way through getting help when I needed it. I had a few calls early on and found everyone really helpful (and a few since).
They can point you in the directions that may help.
Wishing you the best with this.
16-08-2019 03:49 PM
17-08-2019 03:52 PM
I would like to welcome you to Sane Forums - this is a safe place to discuss the issues you have raised here and it's really great you have reached out and I gather it is hard for you to do so
Debt, stress and how to deal with it is tough stuff - I am wondering if something occurred which is hard for you to managed and triggered everything off - there often is an event like that -
It would be ideal wif you were able to access a helpful psychologist - the first thing is to speak to your doctor about it and he can refer you to a therapist and Medicare will give you a rebate of about $80.00 for 10 visits a year -
If this is too expensive for you atm then ring Life Line on 13 11 14 and ask if they can refer you to a public therapist -
And - another choice is a financial advisor and if your income is low then you may be able to have this service free as I did some years back
It's tough but you need to pocket your pride - you don't have to advertise to everyone that you are having problems in these areas but certainly your wife does -
And I am sure you already know that drinking does't help but as you said - it only masks the trouble and never deals with it
Whatever it was that changed your life is what you need to talk about with a qualified person - we are a Peer Support Forum and we don't judge each other - only offer support and suggestions - I am glad you found us
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