@Birdofparadise8 I mean, if you want different things, isn't it healthier to be trying to see those needs met than to have one person suppressing a feeling of discomfort? I would hate to find out that a friend was forcing themself to spend time with me even when they'd prefer to just see me in a group context. Not saying it's easy, or that feelings of rejection are invalid, just that it may be better for both of you, at least for the time being. Perhaps they'll change their mind down the track.
Well if you feel better afterwards, that sounds like catharsis. So wait was your psych trying to encourage you not to write emails when distressed, you're saying? My approach to this kind of thing is to utilise drafts. So like, by all means write the email whilst your emotions are heightened, but just wait a day or two and review before sending - usually when I do this I end up editing stuff to be more in line with my 'wise mind', and can better identify areas where I am being reactive instead of responsive.
Haha nah I won't re-wash it (I don't have a washing machine lol I have to go to friend's houses, wayyyy too much effort), it'll probably just take the rest of winter to dry properly 🤣
