Social chat tonight 7pm here

[starsmile]

Very late but hello everyone! 😆

I promise I’m trying to get more involved in conversations haha, everything is just quite exhausting right now.

[Spirit_Healer]

Hey @Blackcloud , 

I have a parent with similar background to yours. I hear you on the narrow-minded view of heteronormativity they have, which includes wanting to get married and have kids. They do make it a big deal! It's worse because they bring their 1980s view of relationships with them to Australia, not realising that things have, for the most part, moved on since then. 

But not all of our generation have moved on. 

My mum's friend was going to set me up with a young man from their birth country. In the end, the young man didn't want to meet me. Guess what the reason was? I have a higher university degree than him! I have a masters and he 'only has a bachelors'! Read into that what you will.

Outdated, I say!

@tyme @Dreamy @Glisten , I'm interested to hear your thoughts on this, too.

[Blackcloud]

thank you for sharing this with me @Spirit_Healer i find it awesome to see someone else that has experienced a similar thing and can fully understand and empathize with a similar situation im going through. i really appreciate it ❤️

that's interesting - did your mum's friend (or your mum) still set you up with any other guys after that? or have they stopped doing it since then?

[Spirit_Healer]

No,  @Blackcloud , he was the only one, thank goodness. 

I have been on the dating apps/websites on and off since 2016. My experience on those has been mostly disappointing. But now, after my most recent breakup in November, I've realised that I need to work on myself before I venture back to the dating scene. I have some serious healing to do, including trauma therapy. Then I will hopefully be a healthier version of myself, and able to attract a healthy man. 

And I have my eye on a man from my church Bible study group. I've decided just to keep attending and observe for now. 

@Dreamy 

[Glisten]

@Spirit_Healer I’m not sure what you want my input on.

Outdated cultural norms?

[Spirit_Healer]

Yes, @Glisten 

[Till23]

Oh @Shaz51 I'm sorry to hear you are teary

You've certainly had to deal with a LOT of stuff

I hope you can get to a better place soon.

Illnesses can be a lot whether they are mental or physical.

Here if you want to chat - I have known people on peritoneal dialysis

[Glisten]

@Spirit_Healer  Will & Grace - never gets old. Always relevant in someway.

Many people have experienced dealing with family that have outdated cultural norms.

Ask anyone from an immigrant family who has married an Australian.

There’s got to be a stack of books on the subject?

[Shaz51]

Love to hear about people on Peritoneal dialysis that you know @Till23 if you like to share with me 

We needed the cry together this morning @Till23 , @Jynx for release 

Waiting and not knowing when is hard 

My diabetes is over over the place with extra insulin 

At the moment it is 5.3 after dinner so I may have a low during the night 

[Till23]

Oh no @Shaz51 have your jelly beans, or whatever you use, handy tonight then in case you have a low sugar. Is Mr Shaz any good at these things for assistance?

I reckon waiting is one of the hardest things.

When everyone (medical people) thought I had metastatic cancer and I was waiting for my lung biopsy results I reckon that was harder than when I knew I had the initial cancer.

I know of people who have been on it for years and have got themselves into a routine and are pretty functional with it, able to get out and do a heap of stuff.