~ The Toolshed ~

[Melbcoffeesnob]

Hey @toodles 

Wow so very proud of you for not only staying sober but for having an incredible amount of self-awareness with the amount of social contact over the holidays and knowing your limits.

Excited for the new year with it being on the horizon?  How do you think will you manage sobriety with NYE?

[toodles]

 

[scruffypuffball]

@Glisten @Jynx @Appleblossom @tyme @toodles @TideisTurning @NatureLover @Dimity @Snowie @Patches59 @_PixieSolstice_ @hanami @Eve7 @Melbcoffeesnob 

Sending warmth and greetings, some words of wisdom and comfort, i have a migraine so cant sit at desk too long

Omg this:

People pleasing doesn't work.  It never works, or it works temporarily the next day brings more attacks.  The only way is to detach...

[Glisten]

@scruffypuffball  You did a QUALITY post! Thank you so much. They all hit home for me. 
Take care of your brain 🧠 

Have you tried an ice beanie?

[scruffypuffball]

@Glisteni find lying down in the dark helps.  otherwise i vomit and that is the end of the migraine.  hopefully it wont come to that.  turning on the air con at 26C helped too, eating lunch helped..

[Glisten]

@scruffypuffball  How’s the brain 🧠?

[Glisten]

@Jynx @toodles @Melbcoffeesnob @scruffypuffball @Appleblossom 

A few weeks after I outed myself as a survivor of coercive control and narcissistic abuse on the Women’s Shed chat forum, the president Mel, told me about her friend who had gone through the same thing and left her abuser at the age of 70.

Mel’s friend Yvonne then published a book about her story. 
I’ve read it twice with a box of tissues. Tears of joy as she starts resisting and taking control of her life.

How Did I Get Here? by D.Y. Adam’s published 2022.

Mel is talking me to meet her and I’m a little excited about that.

 

[Jynx]

That's incredible @Glisten thanks for sharing!! Let us know how it goes meeting her, that would be quite the inspirational meeting I imagine!

[Appleblossom]

  @Glisten Sounds like a cathartic read. Good on her. So many relationship patterns. Some women were socialised to meet the needs of others. Other women to be the adored and can coercive. Men experience a range of patterns too. Ah how did we all get here. 

[Glisten]

@Appleblossom  so true.