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30-11-2015 11:36 PM
30-11-2015 11:36 PM
Why do I get so down?
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01-12-2015 04:55 AM
01-12-2015 04:55 AM
Re: Why do I get so down?
@WhyAmISad I am pretty new to these forums too. I only joined a few months ago.
So far I have been suprised at how much it helps to read about how it feels from others point of view and also to have the opportunity to share how life feels inside my own head.
I hope that you too will find the community very welcoming. There are a stack of people who can not only relate to everything you described here but also share their own tricks for how they manage things.
I can absolutely relate to what you are saying about struggling to find joy in things, when it seems logically that we have every reason to be happy. It is for this reason that I personally find my depressive periods so damn freaking frustrating. I feel like my depression steals my fun, and joy acnd light away and I don't get to enjoy what ever awesome stuff I am surrounded by or the company of friends. So I am interested to know if you also feel that frustration with yourself?
My heart goes out to you when you say that you wouldn't want to burden your family with another mental ilness. I discovered this year that my younger brother had also been suffering alone and I just wish I had known so he didn't have to feel so alone and isolated, exactly as you have just described.
I hope that you find that your voice doesn't go unheard here on these forums ... and that there is always someone to pop up and say "oh my god thank you! I totally get what you are saying"
So welcome ... and hugs and love
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01-12-2015 06:20 PM
01-12-2015 06:20 PM
Re: Why do I get so down?
Hi ya @WhyAmISad
thought you might like to follow this conversation started by @FairyFox who describes a situation similar to your own
Can I ask if you would consider taking this issue further, perhaps with a psychologist?
As you describe your anxiety is contributing to you not being able to enjoy things in life, which can be an identifying factor in diagnosing depression.
Alternatively, it maybe about learning what it is that stops you from experiencing happiness.
A trip to a GP could also assist in this process.
Food for thought...
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01-12-2015 10:42 PM
01-12-2015 10:42 PM
Re: Why do I get so down?
Welcome to the forums.
A lot of our messages are all over the place ... I have difficult making new friends and tend to mask my sadder feelings with a cheery outlook. Often people are wary of making new connections ... they work hard on their childhood friendships and get burned ...
at first I had a lot of difficulty on the rare occasion someone did genuinely enquire that I I covered up my pain again ... working with people has helped me a lot though ... dont underestimate the value you get and give ... at work.
Now I am experimenting with chunking little problems in small parcels so that I can chat about it socially rather than have it blow up all over the place ... and also let people who sense my pain ... in that I appreciate their concern .. but choir 7 minutes breaks... it isnt enough time and sometimes I dont like to talk about it ... but thanks ... hoping that will enable me make more authentic connections .. that has taken a very long time for me to achieve ... always a work in progress.
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