Hugs @Former-Member .....💜💐💕
Youre a real sweetheart, there for everybody ❣️
There is so so much in my situation that makes my blood boil, and that is what has started to affect my own health in a physical way, whether I am coping emotionally or not ..... and when I realised that I increased my self-care and distraction activities in response ...... which is how I found the forums too .... and letting all the grrrrr out here is definitely one of my coping strategies.
Unfortunately, dealing with someone else who is ill this way, but doesn’t u derstand that they are, tends to start making their nearest and dearest ill too. Our problem is compounded by another one who is just as unwell, supporting this one with unhealthy-attachment issues crossing backwards and forwards between them. Ironic that that also causes one to cross the nation twice-weekly to uphold that level of interaction. One of the baby dragons commented dryly about it. It happening this week, despite being sooooo important “businesswise” for him to be over there every week ...... hmmmmm ...... changeable when he wants it to be.
What probably irks ne
most is that I don’t like things to sit in this sort of unhealthy holding pattern, but to challenge him risks a big bang that would bring the roof down on all our heads and ruin the kid’s recovery to date ...... 😔
I have had to go with the lesser evil, but it really sucks.
Then again, we are all here for super-sucky reasons, so apart from the occasional vent and support, on we go ..... finding humour and companionship amongst our tears ...... which is why this one is not an “Our Stories” thread in fact ...... it’s very much a Something’s Not Right thread that varies in its support and coping strategies.
This has actually been a long-term discussion in the background all across the forums. Trying to keep threads cleanly under topic discussion headings is not entirely possible, because of the nature of support and coping behaviours. They are not always what they seem ...... it’s often a laugh-or-cry way of trying to share or receive support for extremely painful and confronting issues and c/ptsd responses.
I hope I can gently say that, and then just lay it on the ground here to just sit for a while ...... perhaps it doesn’t need any more comment around it just now - not that I am in any way in charge of that. It’s just a suggestion that I hope works for everyone.
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