12-09-2019 06:07 PM
Medical apt in town for hubby this morning @outlander . Grocery shopping, paying bills, ordinary stuff.
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14-09-2019 01:53 PM
@outlander Hope I’m not intruding. Trauma work is difficult, and I think, needs to be done in your time, when you are ready. Finding a good fit is very very difficult and takes a lot of time.
I stumbled across my counsellor and it took time to get to know her before I could talk trauma.
Sorry, just received a phone call and have to run. Hope to talk later if you like.
14-09-2019 01:56 PM
It seems to me like you are not connecting with anyone but this is a long running issue for you @outlander Unfortunately you do not have many choices left with who you see and sometimes that means making the best out of the situation. This is not the first person who has said you are stubborn but maybe it is more a case of inadequate connections than it is stubborness. In saying that though you only get out of therapy what you put in - so maybe it is worth aasking yourself exactly what you want to get out of it rather than what they can offer. You can then build the treatment around that in consultation with your pdoc and psych. If it is not the right time for trauma work then so be it - that is something that needs to come when the time is right - and sometimes it is best to leave things in the past and work on the here and now also - different approaches for different people. I can only go off what I have seen and read from you here as I do not have the other perspectives - but it has been a long running issue that you are resistant to outside help. Some of that is trust issues, some is the lifetime learning of being mostly on your own to deal with everything, and some of that is not knowing how to or accepting help. All of that has influenced your view of any help at all and in my opinion is holding you back from finding a way forward in a way that will give you any quality of life that is truly your own and not consumed by others. So in that regard your pdoc may have some validity in what they are saying but it is also up to them to help you work through what that actually looks like and how to move forward in a meaningful way.
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