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Hi @BlueBay
This is a tough time for you - I know - and it's mind-bending
How do you get through it? It won't go away - it's one of those times when we constantly remind ourselves to breathe - and that's really all we must do - other things need to be attended to - one thing at a time
So go easy on yourself
About your mother - you don't need all the atm - I guess she is just trying to let you know she's there but - mm - yeah - asking you to sort our her flowers is inappropriat - let it go if you can -
There's nothing to be scared of but I know you are - it's okay
It's Wednesday - your head's in a spin - I get that - one thing at a time
Dec
Hi again @BlueBay
It's okay to feel stress and being in "little girl mode" -
But you're right - you have your husband and kids with you and your mother will be there or not depending on her and I really understand that puzzle - she is a strange person - and so was my mother so I get what you are saying
Texting does seem impersonal at such a time - maybe it's the best your sister can do but it does feel sort of weird - families can be troublesome - we know this - so many of us in the forum know this
Clearing out can be difficult - it does give your husband something to do right now - it's no good keeping everything - you're right - there may be some things that could be important for your husband - for you too - your MIL lived with you for a long time
Try some self-care during this time - it's okay to cry - yes - it's grief and natural - and relief too - you've been waiting for this time to come for weeks and that was hard
Just take it easy whenever you can
Thinking of you
Dec
