09-12-2016 11:56 AM
Hello @PeppiPatty, over here my special friend xx
Love to hear from others on the forum if you experience this
My hubby has been diagnosed with lots of things and has had MI all his life
do you find things goes ok and i start to feel confident and wanting to go forward and then everytime something always happens to upset it -- sometimes I think is it a controlling thing ?? that he wants to be in control ??
Don`t know if I am making this up , but i have that feeling ,
09-12-2016 02:09 PM - edited 09-12-2016 02:09 PM
I cannot describe to you how happy I am to get this message from my special friend,
I'm having a mind blank.....can you continue @Shaz51 thinking of others who have had or have children or partners in this situation ??
Yes, yes. Your feeling would be right @Shaz51
in my books at least. Whenever my husband has a bad week, he gets controlling and demanding. We both have a routine though and I've found that since we have cut sugar from our diet......he is definately getting better.
It's a llittle easier for us because he has a diagnosis and he's on medication that is regulated every fortnight. WE get nurses coming into our home to check on him and give him his needle and sometimes take him out for coffee.
09-12-2016 02:31 PM
Hello @PeppiPatty xoxo
he's on medication that is not regulated every fortnight. ,
trying to get him to see the doctor
he has put on a lot of weight because of the meds , he has been on the meds for a year now with no assistance
that sounds like a good idea @PeppiPatty as he drinks a lot of cordial
When he gets controlling and demanding. he doesn`t want to do anything , go anywhere
I am thinking of all the things he might be worried about
09-12-2016 02:40 PM
it's a comfort zone for him maybe, and sounds like control but that comes in all shapes and sizes, only becomes a problem when its not working for one or the other, re wanting to do something other than hanging at home @Shaz51
09-12-2016 04:43 PM
do you have people you see or things you do outside the house on your own @Shaz51 ?
09-12-2016 05:11 PM
sorry to say @TAB, but no
as I don`t drive and my friends never see me only talk to me on facebook
I am glad that we have work as I can talk to the customers
I think if we didn`t have work I would feel totally isolated
09-12-2016 05:17 PM
09-12-2016 05:31 PM
Hello @TAB xx
I can walk, would be a ten minute walk to the center of town
Learning to drive is out because of my rubella syndrome -- blind in one eye and totally deaf in one ear , hearing aid in the other , so I have walked
09-12-2016 05:40 PM
walking is good .. just go a cooler times of day ..sorry do recall you having said that now re eye, ear @Shaz51 what groups do they have? or just wander, coffee shops, walks in park/bush maybe, just getting out can be a big thing ..different sights sounds, peace even maybe and yes people can 'reflect' what they are picking up from other person esp when together a lot of the time, could be a good thing to 'smell the daisies' maybe .. ..charge your batteries..
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