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15-10-2014 10:41 PM
15-10-2014 10:41 PM
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16-10-2014 08:57 AM
16-10-2014 08:57 AM
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Have you called his counsellor about the financial stress you are under?
It sounds as though a financial counsellor might be really worth speaking to. In olden says, Citizens Advice Bureau used to know where to direct people. Would Centerlink ora commu city centre have links into a financial counsellor? Judt to explore options of dealing with banks, bills, etc...
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16-10-2014 05:04 PM
16-10-2014 05:04 PM
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I am so pleased Mrs C that you have support from your family
I am sure your siblings will have only your best interests at heart and give you some honest advice !!
have a wonderful time
take care
ZZ
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16-10-2014 05:15 PM
16-10-2014 05:15 PM
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I found this today - it helped me.
Daily Word Vitamin for Thursday October 16th, 2014: RESILIENCE
If we're seeking to feel freer to express who we really are and live an authentic emotionally colourful life rather than become a beige people pleaser, we'll need to work on our emotional muscle of RESILIENCE.
How? ...
The best way I've found is instead of tormenting ourselves with the futile "why's" when challenging and shitty situations arise; we work our hearts muscle of RESILIENCE better when we ask ourselves "how" we can make changes that will intercept this ever happening again.
I remind myself often when I need to ask myself H.O.W I'm gonna overcome an emotional obstacle ... that this words letters actually answer my question themselves ...
H is for Honestly
O stands for Open-mindedly
and ...
W reminds me to make the necessary changes in myself Willingly.
How do we handle upsetting, inconvenient, emotionally immature people maturely? We take our behaviour up a notch, not stoop to petty paybacks or passive aggressive punishment and respond with the grace of an adult not the grief of a child. We conduct ourselves Honestly, Open-mindedly and Willingly, that's how!
We all accept in adult life that "shit happens" sometimes we can work out "why" it happens and sometimes we can't.
When we focus on "how" we're gonna get through it with our self respect in tact, we can actually create sustainable change.
In order to keep building our hearts RESILIENCE we need to not fear change, but change our fear.
So as we recharge our hearts today, let's check in with ourselves to see if we need to work our RESILIENCE muscle perhaps a little more?
How well do we dust ourselves off and get back to our feet, with our dignity in tact when life has tripped us up with a disappointment?
Is our emotional "down time" improving slowly but surely?
Let's also remember as we take time to rate our emotional fitness that the only person we need to compare our hearts RESILIENCE to is with is the person we were yesterday, last week, las month or last time this shit happened in our lives. Did we react with the immaturity of an upset child, or respond with the grace and maturity of an adult?
I just had to conclude today's Word Vitamin with a visual of one of my most favourite female characters of RESILIENCE, the gorgeously voluptuous Joan from Mad Men!
Love her or hate her, nonetheless what a RESILIENT feast of femininity she is ... enjoy.
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16-10-2014 06:52 PM
16-10-2014 06:52 PM
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Anne Deveson had a book published about 15 years ago titled RESILIENCE. It's great. Perfect for carers to read.
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21-10-2014 09:27 PM
21-10-2014 09:27 PM
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He & the counselor will be working on why he is so angry & blaming me for his illness & then I will be invited back.
We need to find a safe way to talk to each other now.
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21-10-2014 10:07 PM
21-10-2014 10:07 PM
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@MrsC you previously write about resilience, may she visit you and share her beauty
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22-10-2014 09:51 AM
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22-10-2014 08:44 PM
22-10-2014 08:44 PM
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Gosh, so much to juggle @MrsC
I understand that you're seeing a counsellor at the moment. Have you tried a financial counsellor? They have specific expertise to support people through managing stressful financial situations like these. The Salvation Army provides financial counseling, which provides advice on how to manage legal action regarding debts, and they can provide no-interest loans too.
I loved your post about resilience. Hope you are finding strength to get through these tiring and stressful times.
CB
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22-10-2014 11:13 PM - edited 22-10-2014 11:14 PM
22-10-2014 11:13 PM - edited 22-10-2014 11:14 PM
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Thanks CB I'm starting to head down this track,I'm not in a position of no money at all so I don't want to take services away from anyone worse off than myself,the advice I could do with tho.