19-03-2018 10:07 AM
My daughter has suffered from anxiety for a very long time. We have sought help from many specialists over time. I am feeling helpless at the moment. The constant rollercoaster of emotions is relentless and exhausting. All I want is for my daughter to feel good and stay well. I’m at the point that while everyone is overjoyed and happy with her progress all I can do is cry inside knowing that she may fall again very soon. I feel like every time she manages to succeed in overcoming an effect of her anxiety that a new one rears it’s ugly head to taunt her. She is amazing and works so hard to overcome her fears and worries but as time goes on it is wearing us down. I can’t let her see all of this of course. I need her to see me as a strong support. But days like today I sit alone, exhausted and wondering what more we can do to help our beautiful girl.
19-03-2018 02:42 PM
@AnitaIt is so difficult to hide our pain or insecurity and maintain authentic intimate relationships.
Hearing you. It can be exhausting. Try and reach out for your own support too. There is more around specifically for carers.
In a family it cant be all about one person being strong with forbearance and another other getting all the positive encouragement. That contributes to polarisation and imbalances in the family system.
20-03-2018 07:03 PM - edited 20-03-2018 07:08 PM
Everyone has their bad days - it's okay to have yours and feel fed up for a bit. It is a good thing your daughter is even trying - worry if she doesn't.
I find with the mental issues with my daughter I had to accept that even with effort she can slip back. And After doing everything I could for her that I have had to step back some and emotionally distance myself. Are you pursuing your own personal goals, dream and interests? It's important to have a break from the intensity.
We will always be there for our children and eventually they will work it out. Have faith in your daughter that with her continued efforts that one day she will rise above her issues. And allow yourself reprieve by believing this too - all in time.
I have suffered anxiety all my life - I found that working on catastrophe thinking and changing those thoughts/outlook (believing the worse will happen) to more positive ones - and working on my confidence and independence - learning to believe in myself and find meaning in life, was helpful. I have my moments but have improved dramatically. Your daughter will too with maturity, but for now be kind to you and find those things that relax you xxx
20-03-2018 08:09 PM
20-03-2018 10:22 PM
Bouverie Family Therapy in Travancore Melbourne.
Relationships Australia run family sessions.
If you need urgent assistance, see Need help now
For mental health information, guidance and referrals, see the SANE Help Centre
SANE Forums is published by SANE Australia with funding from the Australian Government Department of Health
SANE Australia ABN 92006533606
PO Box 226 South Melbourne 3205 Australia