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Re: Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

Re: Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

I'm trying to tap in to the belief that some boundaries I have set with someone who was a friend are OK, but they're being pushed against with the most recent being a concerning message about how alone he now is and how he is experiencing a significant deterioration in his mental health, including specifics.

I don't want to do things with him anymore as they were becoming no good for me, but I also don't want to leave him in a place as bad as it sounds he is in. I find it hard to hear of someone going through a difficult time and ignore that. I get that what he is going through is hard for him, but in a way I think he might be playing on my emotions too and I don't want to give in to that.

This pushing makes me doubt myself. What if I really am uncaring and cold-hearted? What's wrong with me for not being able to establish and keep firm boundaries? Why am I doubting this when I think deep down it is OK? What if something happens and I didn't do anything about it?

Re: Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

My mother is giving me the shites and starting to upset me. Are they my kids or hers....or maybe im just selfish like everyone seems to think. 

Re: Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

Seeing all these former graduates of my old high school celebrated by doing great things like honours degrees and engineering...all part of international women’s day. I reflect and worry, am I such a loser that I’ve not accomplished anything worthwhile to others? Part of my plan was to help others, but apparently that’s not enough. When will I get off my stupid butt and do something amazing?

Re: Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

I can't control my urges. I feel like I have lost total control.

Re: Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

Little voices are going chitter chatter in my head

Little voices wishing I was dead

 

 

Re: Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

At the moment, I’m constantly anxious. I have complex-PTSD and I was doing okay for a while. My memories that I suppressed returned last year. I was coping okay. I saw my psych forgnightly and continue to do so. Maybe I was this bad then too. I don’t know. But last week I had a whole new round of new memories. I’m worried about everything. I’m at home with a virus but I can’t stop checking my emails for work. Obsessing about every little thing I should have or could have done better. My anxiety is ruling me. When people are here, I want to be alone. When I’m alone, I want someone here. I feel like I can’t do anything right. I look at the clock and hope time has passed and only minutes have. I can’t concentrate. I feel like if I tell people what’s wrong or how bad I’m feeling that I’m also failing. I hate that the people I do tell.. I feel like I’ve burdened them. 

Re: Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

Let me not to the marriage of true minds

Admit impediments. Love is not love

Which alters when it alteration finds,

Or bends with the remover to remove.

O no, it is an ever-fixed mark

That looks on tempests and is never shaken...

 

William Shakespeare,

Sonnet 116

Re: Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

i am really sick of looking like an idiot through other peoples faults. really really sick of it. i always have to deal with the repercussions of these things while everyone else looks like they have sunshine coming out their backsides.


i cant be in 5 different places at once like everyone seems to expect me to!

Re: Worry Room - Get it out, and walk away: No responses please

Always here to listen @outlander Heart And sending a lot of love your way today.

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