Looking after ourselves
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27-01-2020 12:45 AM
27-01-2020 12:45 AM
Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing
I'm going to my foster sister's place for a few days. I've not been for more than a year. Mostly because of the cats. My mother had these days spare so I asked her to look after them. I get free bus tickets every year for country travel because I'm on DSP and they're due to expire soon. So I might as well use them. My foster sister will be back at work, but that's OK. I can fill in my days looking around town or visiting people. She'll ley me use her car.
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27-01-2020 12:52 AM
27-01-2020 12:52 AM
Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing
I know it’s easier said than done, but perhaps try to stay in the day you’re in ..... that’s what I am working on. It’s the best way I know to get through a stressful waiting time .....
It sounds like that is what you are doing anyway. Distraction goes a long way, I’m finding.
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27-01-2020 01:04 AM
27-01-2020 01:04 AM
Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing
The last four years of my life I could have never imagined. And I never saw it coming. Much like your situation it's a constant change and adapting to change. Granted, I only have myself to consider. Your situation is that more multi faceted and complex. I don't know how you keep going, but you do. But that makes me worried about you as well.
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27-01-2020 01:36 AM
27-01-2020 01:36 AM
Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing
I think I have always had a degree of what is called radical acceptance @Sans911, I just didn’t know what it was called ..... and the path I have walked has sort of developed it somehow ..... not without pain and tears mind you, but I am hoping iI have grown enough strength to power me through this turn of events.
I think I would be struggling much more with what had happened without the betrayal of another woman. That sort of closed a book for me, enabled me to disengage from WH emotionally, coupled with information my counsellor has introduced me to.
I have a wavering sense of clarity, but the steps forward are still hard to take if I overthink them.
I am hoping you find that everything goes gently through the necessary steps, and starting work again returns you to your natural stride.
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27-01-2020 02:08 AM
27-01-2020 02:08 AM
Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing
Not many people bring me to tears with their words, but yours have made me spring a leak.
Yes, this added betrayal has been so difficult to bear for you but like you've said, it has enabled you to have some emotional distance. The fallout is still happening in many ways though, so please take care of yourself. Even the strongest chains can break at the weakest point with something minor forcing it to fracture. And sometimes that wealkness can't be seen at first glance.
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27-01-2020 02:12 AM
27-01-2020 02:12 AM
Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing
I am listening @Sans911, paying attention ..... my forum sisters, and brothers, have been walking along with me here for these last nearly four years, and I have learned so much from you all .... and still am.
I hope the leak is a good one to have @Sans911 .... tears can have a potent healing properly about them.
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27-01-2020 02:14 AM
27-01-2020 02:14 AM
Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing
“Properly” started out as property ..... @Sans911
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27-01-2020 02:18 AM
27-01-2020 02:18 AM
Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing
I know you are listening. But sometimes you also need to be reminded. I know too that so many here care about you that there will always be someone to listen and support you at any time.
Did you see any fireworks btw?
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27-01-2020 02:27 AM
27-01-2020 02:27 AM
Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing
Yes, we did see fireworks @Sans911 .... they shot so many of them up really high. It was amazing. I was feeling a bit numb though, but my D3 is empathetic and picked up on it. We sat out on a little balcony we have got here and she brought out and lit every candle she could find about the house ....
WH spoilt her special milestone birthday here earlier in the year, (late last year, actually) by throwing our organisation and time management into chaos. We managed to recover the night, but it wasn’t supposed to have been a “recovered night” ....it was supposed to be lovely, and special, and leave her feeling loved. So the sparklers she had bought for all her friends ended up not being used ..... so honey that she is, she brought them out and we lit them up from the candles, one after the other, and ate some bought pavlova .... cos I can’t cook here in the chaos that this place is .... and don’t have the heart for it at the moment anyway ..... but she was giving back to me, trying to lift my spirits .... bless her. And it worked, through the power of lovely distractions .... 😏
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27-01-2020 02:34 AM
27-01-2020 02:34 AM
Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing
Blessings and hugs from my side of the city to yours. 💕💕💕💕